One of life’s Greatest Paradox:
Sometimes we have to slow down to speed up!
Recently I have had the opportunity to slow down to show up. Some might ask what that means. Let me explain. As I look back over 2018, I feel like I have been part of a NASAR race, without taking any pit stops. In November I felt I was racing around the track on 2 flat tires with an empty tank of gas. I was doing all I could do to keep up with the professionals, when I hadn’t taken the time to learn how to be a professional driver.
I was expecting myself to run with the big dogs when I was still peeing like a puppy. (Isn’t that on a t-shirt somewhere?)
I decided it was time to take a pit stop. A pit stop that has allowed me to:
Stop~ Get clear~ Regroup ~Reset!
Sometimes I get so caught up in being BUSY, I miss the messages along the way. DISTRACTIONS were keeping me from what I enjoy the most, and what I want.
These distractions included:
- Social Media
- Busy Work
I began to notice I felt lonely, disconnected and my anxiety and depression were rearing their ugly heads. I knew I had to jump into my tool kit and find better ways to spend my time.
I recently had a transition at my work. The man I worked for the last 8 years had an opportunity he couldn’t pass up. A new boss came to work. It was a great time for me to reflect on traditions and processes that we have “always done” to see if they were still effective. My new boss always asks me this question “Is it something the employee’s need? Is it something the employees enjoy? If they don’t and we are just doing it to do it, there is no real value in doing it.” Well, to be honest, I hadn’t asked employees, even about the stuff I thought they enjoyed. In the past 3 weeks I have learned just because I think the employees would enjoy it doesn’t always mean they do. – Lesson Learned!
I am learning to SLOW DOWN TO SPEED UP, in my personal and professional life.
With Thoughtfire I am in this process now. What is it that is serving others? Am I just spending a lot of time doing what OTHERS want me to do or what I want to do? Jenny and I talk about this a lot! We share what is working and what we feel isn’t working. The most valuable question she asks me is- What is it you like to do? I have felt like the runaway bride trying out all the varieties of life looking for what I enjoy. (Great show! If you haven’t seen it, I highly recommend it!!) One thing I know for sure is moving into 2019 my focus and clarity are much clearer.
I love the metaphor of the sculptor. 2018 was a year for me to get all the major blocks out of the way to start refining the masterpiece ahead. In 2019, I get out the refining tools and craft that nooks and corners of the work. I am so excited! The beauty of it is as the foundation is laid, all possibilities are available.
As I begin to enter back into the race, my strategy includes clarity and focus, driven by passion and love. I am willing to drive in the slow lane, regroup, and learn to travel in my divinely appointed lines of purpose.
Please tell me, I am not the only one who has found themselves traveling on a empty gas tank with 2 flat tires? Or have you seen yourself as I have, expecting to have the results of an expert? It’s a humbling truth. In the struggle comes the lesson, at the same time we have to take pit stops to refuel and again enter the race.
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Have a great rest of your week friends.